Do you feel overwhelmed by your grief? Are you questioning how to go on without your partner by your side?
Does it feel like everyone else has 'moved on' and you're alone with your grief? Are you worried about how you're coping?
Does it feel like your grief is getting worse rather than better? Is there no-one else that really 'gets' what you're going through?
Are you worried about how your child is coping with their grief? Do you have questions about how best to support them?
Is it difficult to talk about your loss as a family? Are you each grieving differently and unsure about how to help each other?
The death of a husband, wife or partner can affect you in many different ways. The people I meet with often question if their grief is normal and if there are other things they could or should be doing to help them to cope with their loss.
Some of the common challenges people speak to me about include…
Emotions
Often people talk about the idea that there are stages of grief people go through (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance) and are concerned when this doesn’t fit for them. The idea that there are stages of grief hasn’t been supported by research - human beings are much more complex than this.
It’s normal to feel a whole range of emotions including:
You may not experience all of these emotions and they won’t come in any particular order.
I provide a place for you to check if what you’re feeling is normal and to find ways to manage or address your feelings if that’s what you need to do.
Physical and Mental Impacts of Grief
If you’re having difficulty sleeping, feel tired all the time, find it hard to focus on conversations and feel like your brain is in a fog then you are not alone. These are some of the most common physical and mental impacts of grief.
Most of the time these will improve by themselves. However, there are strategies that can help. For example, I teach people techniques to help them to get to sleep or stay asleep and work with them to improve their sleep hygiene.
Meaning, Purpose and Beliefs
Many people say that they feel a lack of meaning and purpose after the death of a spouse or partner. They are left asking ‘big’ questions about why we are here and what the point of life is. Many people talk about feeling fearful about the future and, especially, what would happen to them if they became sick and needed help.
People are often left with questions about what happens after we die. When you’re missing someone you care about you may want to know that they are somewhere safe. But, often we can be uncertain about what we believe.
I offer a place for people to talk about these ‘bigger’ questions, to discuss their fears and hopes, and to try to figure out a way to go on living in ways that feel meaningful.
Relationships
Have you had someone say something hurtful or unhelpful? Have you felt let down by people you thought would be there for you? Everyone I meet with has examples of ‘dumb’ things people have said or friends who have disappeared or just don’t ‘get it’.
Within families people often grieve differently. The absence of one family member changes the way everyone else communicates and relates to each other. This can lead to family members feeling distant from each other or even result in conflict.
I meet with individuals and families to support them to find ways to manage the changes in their relationships. Identifying ways to communicate, support each other and to adjust to their new reality.
Practical Stuff
Often when people talk about grief they focus on emotions. I expect you’ve also found that there are lots of practical tasks that need to be done. These may include deciding what to do with someone’s belongings, contacting organisations to cancel or change services into your name, deciding what to do with ashes and navigating financial and legal issues around wills and probate.
Completing all of these tasks can be exhausting and bring up a lot of emotion. I work with people to prioritise and manage these practical challenges.
Difficult relationships
Not all relationships run smoothly. If you’ve had challenges in a relationship because of conflict, issues with alcohol, gambling or other addictions, affairs or family violence your experience of grief may feel complicated and confusing. You may miss some things, regret others and be relieved that certain parts of your relationship are over.
I support people to unravel this complex web of emotions, to address difficult feelings and to find ways to cope with their grief.
Please contact me on 0448 245 979 to discuss your circumstances to help you decide if counselling is the right option for you.
Appointments are available in Crows Nest at 81 Alexander St. Or, online via Zoom.
The death of a parent can affect people in many different ways. The people I meet with often question if their grief is normal and if there are other things they could or should be doing to help them to cope with their loss.
Some of the common challenges people speak to me about include…
Emotions
Often people talk about the idea that there are stages of grief people go through (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance) and are concerned when this doesn’t fit for them. The idea that there are stages of grief hasn’t been supported by research - human beings are much more complex than this.
It’s normal to feel a whole range of emotions including:
You may not experience all of these emotions and they won’t come in any particular order.
I provide a place for you to check if what you’re feeling is normal and to find ways to manage or address your feelings if that’s what you need to do.
Physical and Mental Impacts of Grief
If you’re having difficulty sleeping, feel tired all the time, find it hard to focus on conversations and feel like your brain is in a fog then you are not alone. These are some of the most common physical and mental impacts of grief.
Most of the time these will improve by themselves. However, there are strategies that can help. For example, I teach people techniques to help them to get to sleep or stay asleep and work with them to improve their sleep hygiene.
Meaning, Purpose and Beliefs
Many people say that they feel a lack of meaning and purpose after the death of a parent. They are left asking ‘big’ questions about why we are here and what the point of life is. Many people talk about feeling fearful about the future and worrying more about their own mortality.
People are often left with questions about what happens after we die. When you’re missing someone you care about you may want to know that they are somewhere safe. But, often we can be uncertain about what we believe.
I offer a place for people to talk about these ‘bigger’ questions, to discuss their fears and hopes, and to try to figure out a way to go on living in ways that feel meaningful.
Relationships
Have you had someone say something hurtful or unhelpful? Have you felt let down by people you thought would be there for you? Everyone I meet with has examples of ‘dumb’ things people have said or friends who have disappeared or just don’t ‘get it’.
Within families people often grieve differently. And, the absence of one family member changes the way everyone else communicates and relates to each other. This can lead to family members feeling distant from each other or even result in conflict.
I meet with individuals and families to support them to find ways to manage the changes in their relationships. And, to identify ways to communicate and support each other and to adjust to their new reality.
Practical Stuff
Often when people talk about grief they focus on emotions. I expect you’ve also found that there are lots of practical tasks that need to be done. These may include deciding what to do with someone’s belongings, contacting organisations to cancel or change services into your name, deciding what to do with ashes and navigating financial and legal issues around wills and probate.
Completing all of these tasks can be exhausting and bring up a lot of emotion. I work with people to prioritise and manage these practical challenges.
Difficult relationships
Not all relationships run smoothly. If you’ve had challenges in a relationship with a parent because of conflict, issues with alcohol, gambling or other addictions, or family violence then your experience of grief may feel complicated and confusing. You may miss some things, regret others and be relieved that certain parts of your relationship are over.
I support people to unravel this complex web of emotions, to address difficult feelings and to find ways to cope with their grief.
Please contact me on 0448 245 979 to discuss your circumstances to help you decide if counselling is the right option for you.
Appointments are available in Crows Nest at 81 Alexander St. Or, online via Zoom.
After the death of a spouse we become a widow or widower. After the death of our parents we become an orphan. There are no words in the English language to describe what someone becomes after the death of a child. Words cannot describe what that’s like.
The parents I meet with often question if their grief is normal and if there are other things they could or should be doing to help them to cope with their loss.
Some of the common challenges people speak to me about include…
Emotions
Often people talk about the idea that there are stages of grief people go through (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance) and are concerned when this doesn’t fit for them. The idea that there are stages of grief hasn’t been supported by research - human beings are much more complex than this.
It’s normal to feel a whole range of emotions including:
You may not experience all of these emotions and they won’t come in any particular order.
I provide a place for you to check if what you’re feeling is normal and to find ways to manage or address your feelings if that’s what you need to do.
Meaning, Purpose and Beliefs
Many people say that they feel a lack of meaning and purpose after the death of a child. They are left asking questions about why this could happen. The world no longer feels like a fair or safe place.
People also have questions about what happens after we die. When you’re missing someone you care about you may want to know that they are somewhere safe. But, often we can be uncertain about what we believe.
I offer a place for people to talk about these ‘bigger’ questions, to discuss their fears and hopes, and to try to figure out a way to go on living in ways that feel meaningful.
Relationships
Have you had someone say something hurtful or unhelpful? Have you felt let down by people you thought would be there for you? Everyone I meet with has examples of ‘dumb’ things people have said or friends who have disappeared or just don’t ‘get it’.
Within families people often grieve differently. And, the absence of one family member changes the way everyone else communicates and relates to each other. You may have questions about how to best support your partner. Or you may have questions or concerns about how to help children who have lost a brother or sister.
I meet with individuals and families to support them to find ways to manage the changes in their relationships. And, to identify ways to communicate and support each other as they adjust to their new reality.
Physical and Mental Impacts of Grief
If you’re having difficulty sleeping, feel tired all the time, find it hard to focus on conversations and feel like your brain is in a fog then you are not alone. These are some of the most common physical and mental impacts of grief.
Most of the time these symptoms will improve by themselves. However, there are strategies that can help. For example, I teach people techniques to help them to get to sleep or stay asleep and work with them to improve their sleep hygiene.
Please contact me on 0448 245 979 to discuss your circumstances to help you decide if counselling is the right option for you.
Appointments are available in Crows Nest at 81 Alexander St. Or, online via Zoom or Skype.
Are you worried about how your child is coping with their grief?
I have over 10 years experience in counseling children and adolescents:
When working with a child or adolescent, I adapt my counselling skills and techniques to make them age appropriate and to support the child or young person’s ability to express their thoughts, feelings and experiences. For instance, I may use ‘Feeling Cards’, Art Therapy, or Play Therapy techniques. As with adult therapy, the goal of children's counselling is to help the child or adolescent to explore issues of concern and work to find strategies to improve coping skills or achieve positive change.
I also work closely with parents an carers to answer their questions and to find the best ways for them to communicate with and support their children.
Parents and carers need to be aware that, as with any counselling session, the content of a child's grief counselling session is confidential. In effect this means that I will only share with parents or carers what the child or young person has said in the session with their permission. I encourage the child or young person to share as much as they would like about our sessions with their parent(s). If I have any concerns about the safety of the child, then I will always inform a parent or carer and notify the appropriate agencies.
Please contact me on 0448 245 979 to discuss your circumstances to help you decide if counselling is the right option for you.
Appointments are available in Crows Nest at 81 Alexander St. Or, online via Zoom.
When families experience significant events or have concerns about one family member’s behaviour or wellbeing it can have an effect on the relationships between all family members. Meeting together as a family provides an opportunity to discuss challenges and to identify strategies to help the family live together and support each other as well as possible.
As your counsellor, my goal is to make family therapy sessions a safe space for difficult conversations, to ensure all family members have the opportunity to share their experiences and to identify concrete steps to help your family.
I have particular expertise in supporting couples and families:
Please contact me on 0448 245 979 to discuss your circumstances to help you decide if counselling is the right option for you.
Appointments are available in Crows Nest at 81 Alexander St. Or, online via Zoom.
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